He told me not to “try to get rid of him again” and “not to worry."I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt, and I hoped he realized that he should really put more time and effort into getting to know me and spending time together if he wanted this to go somewhere.
But a few weeks have gone by and nothing has changed.
I want to say he was more assertive in the beginning, but if he's lost interest, why did he tell me to not try to get rid of him again?
I'm prepared to move on, I just don't get why he kept leading me on if he doesn't want to talk or see me.--Julie, 23Hi Julie!
So many men I know love taking women out and being with them, but have other priorities. They are often vilified for this, and often unfairly. When a guy isn't "making time for you" or "showing he cares," women always assume he's an asshole, has an ulterior motive, or a second family."How dare he not make time for me? You have to look at these things through slightly more objective lenses. I'm around that age, and I'll assume this guy is too.
Sure, he's texting you back in a timely manner, but that could be because he likes female attention and knows he can keep you on the line if he sends you the occasional text and sees you twice a month. He's just going to keep getting away with as little as he can until he's bored, at which point your conversations will slowly fade into nothingness. But if not, at least you can move on to something more authentic. We also lived in different parts of the city and were on different schedules. (I'm such a dick, always taking girls out on weeknights — when I don't have to be up for work and she does — and then drinking until the sun comes up.) The next week, we went out on a Wednesday. And once I knew we had a set day, I became an awful texter. We can go out with you on Wednesday and have such a great time we never want the day to end.Dear Nice Guy and Fuckboy, I have been casually dating a guy for three months.He is absolutely the sweetest and we have a great time together.If he's a careerist, he probably sees commitment as an impediment to his professional aspirations. "How dare anyone I've fucked not consider me the most important thing in their entire lives??But he still enjoys dates, women and unwinding when he can. "In the same vein, saying "you're letting him have what he wants," or "if he won't commit, he doesn't deserve you," is immature, self-serving bullshit.When we saw each other, though, I had a great time for a few hours. It sounds like that's what this guy is doing to you. He may have a Thursday girl, a Friday girl, and a Saturday girl also, and I'm sure that's what frightens you.