Love dating and other insanities

When someone only calls you when they want to hook up, it’s a clue that they only contact you to pave the way for a shag.

When someone doesn’t show up, unless they’re in a coma, it shows disrespect and disinterest.

Think about what it would be like to spend most of your time alone because being around other people is just too difficult. But this is a two-way street — the mentally ill withdraw from society–society withdraws from them.

You feel that others are judging you for your mental illness, and so you are scared to face the world. An Australian survey reported that two-thirds of people affected by a mental illness feel lonely “often” or “all of the time”.

– You deny, rationalise, and minimise which then means that hints become a blank canvas for your overactive imagination.

– Certain things have been said that you don’t like or want to believe, which you then spend copious amounts of time and energy analysing and ruminating over.

Every day, people who are dating or in relationships where there’s unavailability or other issues, come up against hinting, you know indirectly or slightly indicating something.

In essence, we receive feedback and signals from the actions and words of our partners that let’s us know what’s up…if we’re listening and watching.

When the person isolates more, they face more mental distress. This vicious cycle relegates many people with severe mental illness to a life of social segregation and isolation. Warning: file_get_contents( failed to open stream: HTTP request failed!

– You’ve decided that until they spell it out, loud and clear and even get a whole heap of nasty on you, that not only are you still in with a chance, but that you don’t fully believe what they’ve been ‘hinting’ at because they haven’t said it. Actions and words (or the lack of them) give a clue, as do certain situations. Well hinting in dating and relationships is very much like Catchphrase – the more clues you have to collect before you take the hint, the less of a relationship you have and the deeper you are into an unhealthy situation, either because they’re at best taking advantage of and at worst abusing you, or because by refusing to take the hints, you’ve ended up acting without self-love, care, trust, and respect towards yourself.

Where there’s one clue there are other clues, but the truth is, often just one clue alone is giving you vital information. Contestants were presented with a hidden image of a catchphrase and the computer would remove jigsaw like pieces one at a time, and they’d have to try and guess what the image said. We’d be killing ourselves laughing when the host Roy Walker would get distinctly impatient when practically the whole image was there and they were still struggling. The most popular argument that people who won’t take the hint make, is that they believe that if someone for example wants to communicate “I don’t want a relationship” or “I’m not ready” or “I’m not interested” or “I’m not leaving my partner” or “I only want you for a shag, an ego stroke, or a shoulder to lean on”, that they should say this directly. Putting it all on someone else to spell it out, is major avoidance of responsibility and accountability.

When anyone, mentally ill or not, does not have enough social contact, it affects them mentally and even physically.

Loneliness creates stress, taking a toll on health.


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