When you marry the right person, that person will enourage you to be the best you can be. You might be attracted to someone of the same gender.The more fully you develop who you are, the more likely it is that you will attract a mate who will appreciate you. But those people can never be your true soulmates, the one that G-d chose for you before you were born. This is Torah law and the wisdom of the Jewish mystical tradition as it has been handed down for thousands of years. Successful marriages are focused on the things both partners have in common.You can create your Personal Development Plan at your own pace.
She wrote, "Whether or not you agree with system, the system remains the same." The "system" to which this woman referred is the Orthodox Jewish world of dating and all of the pressure it exerts on those attempting to navigate through it.When I finished reading the young woman's article, I took a moment to reflect on the many stories that I had read with the same message.I typed a short response telling the writer that she was among friends who sympathized with her.It is time for the Orthodox leadership to realize that.One of the major problems with my rabbi's brand of marriage promotion is that his advice is often impractical and can lead to serious feelings of guilt and social insecurity.The time you are given before you are married is a special time for growth. Your lives should be moving in the same general direction.